What Is Jeff To Me?

We met when we 1st passed out from school, during our 1st real job's orientation. He was 20 & I was 19 (my birthday not over yet!). As of Thursday, 10th July, we have officially been together for 5 years. He's now 25 & it's my turn in 5 months' time. We've been married for just slightly over a year & a half.

We married young, against everybody's wishes. Sure, I've known of other girls who married even younger but their husband is usually much older, hence, the financial stability. When we got married, Jeff just completed his NS & had been working for merely a year. Our CPF combined barely broke through the 30k mark & our savings almost non existent. But we felt that we can work our way through.

We haven't actually. Financially, we're adequate. I get to put aside 1/3 of my bring home salary for savings & by being thrifty, we can get through till the next payday. It's the arguments that wear me down. He's impatient & I'm impatient & tempers flare. That, of course is inevitable in every relationship. We get the good & the bad times just like everybody else.

We're very lucky. We have our own house & a van that we're slowly building up upon when heaven knows how many people out there have to worry about their next meal. We have our dog kids & it's kinda like real human parenting. They're to us what human children are to their parents: their fruit of love. Without Jeff, I'll never have Ton Ton, the stupid gong gong dog who always bangs his head without fail on the computer table when standing up to put his front paws on my knees, hoping to get a hug or a kiss. Without Jeff, I'll never know the true meaning of irritating. That's in reference to Puggy if you don't know what I'm talking about. Wahahaha!

Yet he's timid enough to "crap in his pants" when frightened. (Jeff got so angry with him just a few days ago that he grabbed Puggy & pressed him against the wall 1 m above ground. The next thing he knew, he saw a piece of shit dropped onto the floor.)

Well, if there's anything you don't like in your man, be prepared to accept it. Coz if there's anything I've learnt, I learnt that they will never change. If they're like this before marriage, they're like this after. Nagging doesn't work coz they just shut you out & take up selective hearing. Quarrelling will only make you feel miserable. Try talking nicely & they'll do it for a few days then revert back.

So what's Jeff to me? When we got married, he didn't have money to buy me any diamond ring. Haha. He never did get me 1 but he got for me a diamond pendant for last year's birthday that cost him the better half of his bonus. When he's outside & sees something nice, he'll buy home for me to eat. (That's why I can never lose weight lah!) He'll do the things I don't like to do, like ordering food, switching off the lights at night & etc, albeit unwillingly. So what's Jeff to me? He's home to me. My home where my heart is.