My 100th Post
My 1st post was in March 2005. I was still in OT, working my ass off, getting all sorts of verbal abuse from surgeons. But at the same time, it was the only time I experienced satisfaction when I knew I did well. I can't believe that it's been more than a year since. I swore to myself when I left that I'll work hard & give my family & myself a good life. We need not be rich, we need not even be 'comfortable'. My goal is never to have to worry about money, having excess for savings & hopefully trips overseas. I'm nowhere near there yet. But I'm slowly making progress. I hope that I'll get there in another 5 years or so.
Situations & priorities changes. I seriously doubt that we'll get the flat we balloted for. But in the event we do get it, we'll be looking at renovation & furnishing costs. It can easily amount to 50k. We have all these plans. It's all just slowly coming together. I don't want to have it nipped before it can even bloom.
How do you wanna live your life? With as little regrets as possible? Unfortunately, regrets are kinda inevitable. You'll never know the outcome of any decision you've made until you make them. For me, I wanna live my life while I can. You'll never know when death & sickness will strike. It doesn't mean that I proceed without caution. I've thought long & hard on the consequences of my decisions, be it to do or not to.
Yes, everyone's very right. I'm 23 years old. That's a tender age to be getting tied down. Like I said, I have my own plans. Someday I'll be a mom. I don't want to have to rush into motherhood becoz I married late & I can't afford to waste anymore time. I wanna enjoy 2 to 3 years of married life before having children. Someone (much older) told me that there can never be a perfect time to get married or have children. I thought about it & believe it to be so.
There is this 1 rule of marriage I've always believed in. Your spouse should always be the most important person in your life & should be the person you love the most. Not your children, not your other family members. I've seen so many couples make this mistake. Once children comes along, their children becomes their world. A marriage is not held together by your children. A marriage is held together by the love you have for each other.
We've had countless quarrels. Which couple doesn't? Quarrels are not to push 2 of you further apart. Their role is to help you know your partner better. I'm glad that I can say truthfully that this is the case with us.
Situations & priorities changes. I seriously doubt that we'll get the flat we balloted for. But in the event we do get it, we'll be looking at renovation & furnishing costs. It can easily amount to 50k. We have all these plans. It's all just slowly coming together. I don't want to have it nipped before it can even bloom.
How do you wanna live your life? With as little regrets as possible? Unfortunately, regrets are kinda inevitable. You'll never know the outcome of any decision you've made until you make them. For me, I wanna live my life while I can. You'll never know when death & sickness will strike. It doesn't mean that I proceed without caution. I've thought long & hard on the consequences of my decisions, be it to do or not to.
Yes, everyone's very right. I'm 23 years old. That's a tender age to be getting tied down. Like I said, I have my own plans. Someday I'll be a mom. I don't want to have to rush into motherhood becoz I married late & I can't afford to waste anymore time. I wanna enjoy 2 to 3 years of married life before having children. Someone (much older) told me that there can never be a perfect time to get married or have children. I thought about it & believe it to be so.
There is this 1 rule of marriage I've always believed in. Your spouse should always be the most important person in your life & should be the person you love the most. Not your children, not your other family members. I've seen so many couples make this mistake. Once children comes along, their children becomes their world. A marriage is not held together by your children. A marriage is held together by the love you have for each other.
We've had countless quarrels. Which couple doesn't? Quarrels are not to push 2 of you further apart. Their role is to help you know your partner better. I'm glad that I can say truthfully that this is the case with us.
posted by Rookie Jo at 9:33 PM
3 Comments:
grats to yr 100th post!!
till now we do hv some disagreements...but i learnt to keep silence...when i feel that it will turn into more argumentative issues...u right who don quarrel? even my parents still does...perhaps like this can get to know each other bttr...
yeah!! some married friends with kids said...life is incomplete for a couple without children?? i doubt so...unless we are ang mo...cos i see some oldies here still holding hands in hands...they look so loving...their children may hv gotten married and live far...imagine how many of our parents can behave like that?
hoho..perhaps with children...it may draw the relation apart...cos both too engross with the kids mah..and which mean work harder to support family and give the children...therefore most time h&w hv neglected each other...taking alot of things for granted...i don wanna let my offspring be in our part...
say my hub...used to kiss me b4 he left for work...now with ah boi..neither he forgotten nor dun wan to..then he said me..eversince ah boi came i lose the intimacy with him?? so same situation lorr...i nvr wan the intimacy to hold this relationship...which a wife here told me...man will go wild and 'dou chi' if the wife don give woh...well...i told her not true...it all depend on yr hub...
gosh! i am going off topic leow...
lucky this blog is not read by alot of pple..else horr...very paiseh...mannn
Hahaha! I agree with you wor. I do turn down Jeff's requests to go over to his place becoz I wanna go home to Ton Ton. Of course, there's the thing with his mom...
Then he'll say, "How come you treat Ton Ton better than you treat me? How come you kiss Ton Ton more than you kiss me?". Haha. So after he pointed it out to me, I make an effort to be more affectionate with him lor. Hehe.
how true what you have said, some people let their husband and wife relationship goes sour cos they spend too much time on their children, while neglecting each other.. I agree...
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